This was sent to me from a friend of mine… it’s an actual conversation that he had with someone else over IM. He said it’s a good example of not being *mean*, per se, but of manipulation power in action. It’s un-edited, so forgive the spellign and, gramar errers…
Male says:
You have a boyfriend….you have no life in college anyway
female says:
we arent going to be like this in college
female says:
im calling it right now
Male says:
lol
Male says:
i know
Male says:
You’ll find yourselves growing apart…and wanting to experience new things…until eventually the only way to save your friendship is to split and just be friends.
Male says:
and even if you’re smart…and you don’t wait to long so that you don’t resent each other…you’ll become friends for a short time…and realize that you can’t even be friends with someone who is different from when you first met…and he’ll realize the same…and there goes two years that you wish you hadn’t wasted …and wished you experienced it with your new friends instead of someone you don’t.
Male says:
even know anymore
Male says:
yes…it’s depressing
female says:
that is very depressing
Male says:
depressing…but i wouldn’t lie…..a 99% chance of occuring
female says:
yea i agree completely
Male says:
because around the end of your frosh year…you’ll have a life changing experience that will change everything about you. Some for good, some for worse.
Male says:
And you won’t be the same person you are now…and i know thats hard to understand….especially because it hasn’t happened yet
Male says:
and you’ll look back and think…if only i tuly understand then…what i know now. But it doesn’t amtter…you have to try and fail. Just like countless of other college students who attept what your doing and fail.
Male says:
i know of no one that has sucedded….besides the few who broke it off early and got back together later in life
female says:
yea that would make sense
Male says:
those who stayed together inevidibly resented each other….and thing never work with resentment
female says:
im scared
Male says:
it is a scary thing
Male says:
i was in your shoes…..and so are so many others
female says:
are you saying this to scare me?
Male says:
and no matter how many times some guy or girl…straight out of college makes you aware of the future…and even after you finally understand…and see it yourself….it’s still something you try to fight with everything inside you
Male says:
No…not at all. Strictly from a friend perspective
Male says:
I don’t mean to scare you….i’m just describing why i lol…when you discuss your relationship the way you do
female says:
well i know all this and i know it will happen and i dont want to think about it because its inevitable
Male says:
It all what you do with your time
female says:
huh?
Male says:
It should be something to think about though…not necessarily to give up everything….but to realize when to let go
Male says:
because it’s all what you do with your time
female says:
oh
Male says:
Your too stubborn to break things and remain as friends…especially becaue i’m giving you that advice….but it’s important to still keep it in mind
Male says:
because when it crashes and burns…if you get out early enough…you could still save your friendship
Male says:
and more improtantly the last few precious years of your life where money isn’t an issue and you are tryly free